As a “twenty-something”, I am sure when it comes to dating and relationships we’ve had a lot of “ shoulda coulda woulda” situations. We’ve all had those moments when all we want to do is lay down, cry, call a close friend while watching trashy television and downing a good ol’ pint of Talenti Ice Cream (btw I love that stuff haha!). This moment happens again….and again….and again.
If you’ve been following my blog, you would know that one of my favorite blogs to read is Elite Daily- The Voice of Generation Y. I enjoy reading articles written by individuals that I can relate to, especially when the article speaks to me. The latest article that I read that sparked me to write a response was “Don’t Make Pain An Addiction: Why You Need To Believe You Deserve Better” by Akina Chargualaf. This article states interesting points that we (as women) should know!
(1)“My faith in myself completely diminishes during those free-falling moments. I never expect to fall for someone, but then again, I don’t plan for him to completely cut me out of his life, either. No explanation. Done. I’m sure it’s happened to all of us. Maybe once, possibly twice and for myself, a third time.”
(2)”We love the good, but we’re obsessed with loving the bad. Sometimes, the bad is what makes us stay, no matter how much it hurts us in the long run. We’re just being humans who live to love and be loved in return.”
When you first start dating someone, you have faith that the person will be a good person. After all, we all have standards (at least I hope we all do) that also plays a part in who we decide to date. You would think that the person you choose is an overall good person, right? However, once that person betrays us and/or hurts us, it’s hard to walk away. You have so much potential in that person. I never understand as a women (who make mistakes like this as well), why do we take so much from someone who is clearly showing us their true colors? I believe that we all love the potential of the person more than who that individual really is. We know we deserve better! I am a true believer that once you start loving yourself, you also start knowing your worth. You deserve better! We as women should start taking a stand and not tolerate anything less than our standards!
(3)”You are the one pulling your own hand through the darkness. You always have been. Have the strength to walk away when something no longer urges you to grow. Have the courage to love again because you deserve love and happiness as much as the person sitting next to you.”